Caretaking: Codependent You May…….. #1

    • think and feel responsible for other people for other people’s feelings, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, lack of well-being, and ultimate destiny.

Let’s see if I meet these qualifications:

Do I think and feel responsible for other people’s feelings, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, lack of well-being, and ultimate destiny?   When I chose to have my second son, James- my husband chose to stay with me (out of choice because he thought that I would NOT do a good job as a mother on my OWN).  Should I feel responsible?  No.  Does he MAKE me feel responsible? I suppose.  For my children, I can say without a shadow of a doubt I think and feel responsible ALL the time.  Why?  Well, because they are children, and it isn’t like they can go out and work for themselves.  So I guess, anyone who has children would naturally fit into this category.  Qualification 1. MET

How about you.  Are you Caretaking for a Codependent Person?  

 

Suggested by a friend, forgotten by me but usually a routine:

http://will.tip.dhappy.org/projects/unsorted/project/media/text/Melodie%20Beattie%20-%20Characteristics%20of%20Codependent%20People.html

The Mask

It is the object

That disguises one,

We call it the-

MASK.

There can be many

Shapes and forms

Of the manipulative-

MASK.

One can have

Several layers

Before showing

Their true selves

Hidden under the

MASK.

The MASK-

It can be Manipulative

And fool us.

It can be the-

Archenemy OR even an Angel.

We won’t know until we choose.

It can be the-

Naïve choices we make

And a feeling of Nothingness.

It can even come in the form of

Kindness, Kindred Spirits, 

Or the Kill.

If we are not careful, and wise

With knowledge aplenty,

And we don’t peel those many layers off-

Then what hides behind the MASK,

will leave us with the unknown.

Be shielded with your armor before going

Into battle.

Don’t let the MASK deceive you.

Unleash the MASK, when you are challenged

With a difficult decision. Because only

Then we will know the Absolute Truth.

Wisdom, Power, Courage, and Bravery- those

Traits do not hide behind the MASK of

DECEIT.

NICOLE SCRIBNER

DON’T LET HIM FOOL YOU.

#3 Anonymous Needs a Title: PLEASE HELP

Another one without a title:

THOUGHTS OF YOU RUN THROUGH MY MIND

THEY ARE SO EASY TO FIND;

THOUGHTS OF YOU WILL NEVER CEASE

YOUR BEAUTY AND SMILE BRING ME PEACE;

THOUGHTS OF YOU ARE ALWAYS NEAR

BECAUSE I LOVE YOU SO DEAR;

THOUGHTS OF YOU WRITTEN ON MY HEART

NEVER WILL THEY DEPART;

THINKING OF YOU IS ALL I HAVE TO DO

TO TURN MY DAY FROM BLUE;

THINKING OF YOU IS WHAT’S BEST FOR ME

MAKING MY SOUL SO HAPPY…….

 

M. DEGRAY  7/12/2014

#2 Anonymous Needs a Title: PLEASE HELP

This too needs a title.  I have been thinking but came up blank:

THOUGH THE ROADS YOU TRAVEL MAY BE STONY AND ROUGH

GOD’S GRACE IS SURELY ENOUGH;

THOUGH THE CLIMB UP THE MOUNTAIN MAY BE STEEP

OR THE VALLEY YOU GO THROUGH TOO DEEP

GOD’S GRACE IS SURELY ENOUGH;

JUST A FRIENDLY REMINDER 

TO LET YOU KNOW I CARE

EVEN IF LIFE IS BEING UNFAIR.

STORMS MAY ARISE 

TROUBLES MAY APPEAR

ONE THING IS CERTAINLY CLEAR;

THROUGH THE TEARS OF HEARTACHE AND PAIN,

THE ROUGH DAYS OF SUNSHINE AND RAIN

MY LOVE FOR YOU WILL ALWAYS REMAIN….

THOUGH THE ROADS THAT SEPARATE US ARE A TON

INTO MY ARMS YOU CAN RUN;

WHEN HURT AND PAIN MAKES YOU SHED A TEAR

DON’T EVER FEAR,

FOR I AM ALWAYS HERE…….

M. DEGRAY  7/12/2014

#1 Anonymous Needs a Title: PLEASE HELP

With Your Help, I can Name this! 🙂

My x-husband has shared some poems with me, that he thinks that maybe I can title for him, and send  back to him.  However, I am coming up blank.  I was hoping I could get the blogging community’s help?! PLEASE?  

This is the first one-  

THOUGHTS OF YOU DANCE THROUGHOUT MY HEAD

AS I LAY DOWN IN MY BED;

WHEN I THINK OF YOU 

I SEE BEAUTY RARE AND TRUE;

WHEN I THINK OF YOU

I SEE SKIES CLEAR AND BLUE;

WHEN I THINK OF YOU

I SMELL HONEYDEW;

WHEN MY MIND DRIFTS OFF INTO SPACE

PICTURES OF YOU MAKE MY HEART RACE;

WHEN I DREAM ALL DAY LONG YOUR VOICE ECHOES A SWEET, SWEET SONG;

DRIFTING AWAY TO SLEEP

MEMORIES OF YOU 

WILL I ALWAYS KEEP

LOCKED IN MY HEART 

WHERE THEY NEVER DEPART;

WHEN I THINK OF YOU 

I REMEMBER ALL THAT YOU WOULD DO;

WHEN YOU WALK THROUGH MY MIND 

A LOVE SO TRUE I’LL NEVER AGAIN FIND;

WHEN I THINK OF YOU

THERE IS ONLY ONE THING I CAN DO…

THANK GOD FOR SUCH A WONDERFUL DISPLAY OF BEAUTY THAT IS YOU…..

M. DEGRAY.  7/12/2014